This seems somewhat appropriate right now:
Here's our dilemma:
Right now, our invite list is at 346...which is way cut down from the original request for guests invited and quite ridiculous if you ask me, but, if all guests are invited on this list...pretty much everyone else is happy. From our best guess, we can assume that close to 100 of those aren't going to come. Only 12 are confirmed as not coming so far though. So it really is just a guess, and we could have 334 still attending. We do not really have to space for that, but I can assume not every single person will come. I also do not want that many people there. In fact, I'd like to be under or at least near 200.
If I do the condensed guest list, some people won't be invited, from each person's requested invites. And by some, I mean, I've been able to cut the invite list down to 266, which still includes the 12 people that aren't coming that makes our maximum attendance 254. A little nicer, and I'm sure there will still be those who don't come.
The wedding is slightly out of town. Maybe 45 minutes to 2 hours depending on where the guests that live locally are coming from.
How many actually showed up from your invited list?
If I did invite the large list, do you think that it would end up in a manageable number?
I know it's just a guess, but from your past experience, I'd love to hear what happened for your wedding!
Any help would be awesome. I have to start addressing very, very soon, and I just need to figure out what to do...everyone seems to want me to make the decision, but then some gripe when it's not what they wanted. Ugh! Eloping has been looking mighty nice lately! Hello St. Lucia!! Ha.
2 comments:
The rule of thumb is that 10% of your guest list probably won't come. That is a huge number and if you don't want that many people CUT IT! This is your day and you should be surrounded only by those who you really want there!
What we did was started by writing down family that absolutely had to come....parents, siblings, grandparents, then aunts, uncles and first cousins. Then we wrote down our wedding party and their dates. We gave each set of parents 8 guests, we figured this was a good way to be fair to all of our parents and still keep a reign on the list. After that we each wrote down our friends, family friends and friend's family....our guest list was about 20 people bigger than we wanted it to be so we each cut 10 people. We're also not allowing guests without a spouse, fiance or very serious bf/gf to bring a date. All of our friends know each other so no will should feel "by themselves."
Woah, that was a long comment....but that worked for us! We really wanted to make sure only people who we really care about and really care about us are there on the big day. Plus, the smaller the guest list the less money you have to spend on food and the more you can spend on a fab dress or other fun stuff! :o)
I've always heard that you should expect a little more than half to actually come. It's hard to make everyone happy, though. Good luck getting the number right. We had a destination wedding in Ireland and took a small group with us, but we had a reception in our town once we got back and I'd say 3/4 of the people invited showed up.
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