I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about life, love, ect. And I've realized that sometimes I suck at loving others. Not with people I really like, but with those that annoy me or that I just don't like to be around. I'm not mean, but I'm also not loving to them. I'm not really sure what to do. A lot of times it just makes me frustrated or mad, but I know I really shouldn't be letting people affect me in that way.
Sometimes, things people do are messed up, but I have no control over anyone else...just my reactions and how I handle myself in the situation...and that is what I'm working on...
This has been on my mind for a while, especially now, because it's Christmas time. To me, that symbolizes not only time with ones I love, but the ultimate gift...Jesus became a man, came to earth to one day die for everyone. That is the ultimate example of love. He gave himself for everyone. Sometimes it is hard to fathom. He knew what was to come...that He would die for people who loved him, and those who hated him. The crazy part is, I'm not asked to die for anyone, I'm just supposed to love them. Why is it so hard sometimes?
How do you respond to those that aren't friendly, or go out of their way to be hurtful? How do you learn to love them, even when you don't want to?
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I feel the same way. When you figure it out let me know!
I agree 100%! It's really hard but I guess I am at the point where I don't go out of my way to ignore someone but I also don't go out of my way to pay attention -- we co-exist in blinded bliss haha =) it's hard to care about people especially when they don't care about others and treat people poorly -- ESPECIALLY when they treat people you love poorly.
When someone goes out of their way to be hurtful I generally don't retaliate or try to be hurtful back, I just let it go ...and complain about it to my girls...which I guess is a FORM of retaliation but I think it's REALLY hard to love someone who is hurtful. Good luck figuring that one out. If you do, write a book and quit your job lol =)
Oh goodness - this is something that I struggle with as well. The idea of loving everyone as Christ loved them. I just try to remind myself each day that I am so unperfect and Christ accepts me just as I am and loves me despite all my flaws. So the least I can do is overlook those who may not be pleasant or who may be annoying. It's what we are called to do - it's not always easy, but keeping the thought at the front of my mind makes it easier to control my temper or frustrations when I start to feel unkind towards others.
Let me know if you discover the secret! :)
Oh friend. I think we ALL struggle with this. I work with people I can't stand!!! I use to be known as a "bitch" around the office because I would NOT give them the time of day b/c of their lifestyle, mannerisms, annoyingness, etc. I have been trying to live a life of love because God is love and has given us his unconditional love. We should love EVERYONE no matter what. (Easier said than done, I know). But I PRAY everyday and esp in tough circumstances for God to allow me to be loving, to see past those things that get under my skin. I have gotten so much better, but it is something us as human will ALWAYS struggle with.
Praying for you <333
Oooooh girlfriend, I am with Hillary on this one! I struggle with this daily, hourly, you name it...I even have some people in my family (mainly cousins) who are pathological liars...those are the ones I cannot deal with-- and then its my family to boot!! I can let myself get sooo worked up!! I love that country song "I Pray For You" sooo cute! Have you heard it!? If not, then I promise it will put a smile on your face immmmediately, youtube it!!
I just remember that I don't start anything but I don't take things well either with people who do...we're all human....I just think sometimes OUR side of it is merely a reaction of human nature.
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